Curious about spanking or ready to explore this playful side of intimacy? We’ve teamed up with @joce_cova to bring you A Map to Pleasure, filled with spanking tips to help you dive into this new experience with confidence. Whether you're new or experienced, here’s a simple safety guide to ensure an enjoyable and safe time for you and your partner.
1. Establish Boundaries and Communicate
Before you begin, it’s crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what you both want from this experience. Establish clear boundaries, discussing what’s okay and what’s off-limits. This should include how hard or soft the spanks should be, how long the session will last, and whether you want to use a safe word—a mutually agreed-upon word that signals when to stop or slow down. Setting expectations upfront ensures both partners feel safe, respected, and excited about the experience. Clear communication leads to more trust, which enhances the intimacy and fun.
2. Warm Up the Area
Warming up the body is essential to help avoid injury and maximize pleasure. Before spanking, gently rub or massage the buttocks, to increase blood flow and sensitivity. Start slow with light touches, caresses, or even light pats, gradually building up the intensity. This creates a sense of anticipation, which can make the spanking feel more enjoyable. A proper warm-up also reduces the risk of bruising or discomfort, allowing the experience to be more pleasurable for your partner.
3. Try Spanking Upwards
For a safer and more pleasurable experience, aim your strokes slightly upwards towards the fleshy part of the buttocks. This technique enhances the sensation by targeting the softer, more padded areas of the body, while avoiding sensitive zones like the lower back or tailbone, where bones and nerves are closer to the surface. By spanking upwards, you can focus on the areas that are most likely to deliver pleasurable sensations without risking injury. It also adds a controlled element to your technique, keeping things exciting but safe.
4. Prioritize Aftercare
After any form of rough play, including spanking, aftercare is essential. This involves checking in with your partner emotionally and physically, offering comfort, reassurance, and care after the session. It could be a tender hug, soothing words, a gentle massage, or even applying a cool cloth to the skin if needed. Aftercare helps both partners come down from the intensity of the moment, reinforcing trust and intimacy. It’s a way to show appreciation for each other’s vulnerability and ensure both parties leave the experience feeling positive and connected.
